Yours And Mine

I sometimes wish I could
Just be anonymous and
Walk down the street just like everyone else
Before I was famous I was the girl
On the heel with the guitar
I was the girl who just wanted
A beautiful view of the beach
And now that I'm famous
It's really really difficult to
Do very simple things
I think it's the hardest thing to give up
But my mother always taught me
To be strong and
To never be a victim, never make excuses
Never expect anyone else to
Provide for me things
I know I can provide for myself
I have dreams
And I feel like I have a power
To actually make those dreams a reality
When you're famous no one looks at
You as a human anymore
You become the property of the public
There's nothing real about it
Just look at these dazzling women
The finest representatives of our nation
Ready to reach for the stars
And grab the crown

You can't put your finger on who I am
I can't put my finger on who I am
I am complicated i grew up with a lot
Of conflict, and drama's
And I've been through a lot
Just like everyone else
My escape was always music and I'm
So lucky that that's my job
But if I accomplished all of these things
And had no one to share with
It would be worth nothing you know
You need something real in order for
Any of this stuff to matter
You have to have something that is forever
Something that's invisible

I was brought up seeing my mother try
To please and make everyone comfortable
And I always felt like it was
My job to fix the problem people pleaser
But I'm no longer afraid of conflict and I
Don't think conflict is a bad thing
Because I know that when you grow up
When you learn
A few things, you're no longer
Afraid of letting go
You're no longer afraid of the unknown
You're no longer afraid of going to
Certain places in your body and
Your mind and your soul that
May make you feel uncomfortable
And it all starts with if
You could look at yourself
In the mirror and say "I like that person
" you know?
If I hadn't gone through, you know, some
Of the painful experiences in my life
I would not be me
And I feel like my body is borrowed
And this life is very temporary
I watched my friends body deteriorate
And to see some one pass on so gracefully
Put everything into perspective
We do not value ourselves enough
Especially young people don't
Really appreciate
How brilliant our bodies are
I've always been very very
Specific and very choosy
Very choosy about what I do with my body
And who I want to share that with
People feel like they lose something
When they get married
But it doesn't have to be that way
There's nothing more exciting than having
A witness to your life
I always considered myself a feminist
Although I was always afraid of that word
Because people put so much on it
When, honestly, it's very simple
It's just when, you know
A person that believes in equality
For men and women
Men and women balance each other out
And we have to get to a point where
We are comfortable with
Appreciating each other
I have a lot of empathy for men
And the pressures that
They go through and the cultures
That have been created
Especially for African-American men
I have the same empathy for women
And the pressures we go through
The woman has to provide so
Many things for their children
I consider myself a humanist

You know, everybody's not good at everything
You know, it's OK to depend on someone
It's actually what we're supposed to do
We're supposed to depend on each other
And when you find the person that
You trust and you love
And you feel is going to respect you and
Take all of the shit you have
And turn it around and bring out the
Best in you and feed you
It is the most powerful thing you
Can feel in your life
Happiness comes from you
No one else can make you happy
You make you happy
And one thing that's for sure:
The love I have for music, for
My husband, for my child
Is something that will last
Far beyond my life